Whispered words. Sideways glances. Low tones. Concerned looks. We all know the feeling when we know we are being left out of something important. It's not a good feeling.
Why does it happen? I feel like if it happens at a business or workplace, it's usually under the guise of being "professional". People seem to think they are being professional when they withhold information from the lower rank employees. However, in my experience, it is less about professionalism and more about personal feelings and a petty assertion of power.
It seems to me like when a person has a little bit of power over someone else, they like to rub it in by whispering about things that don't need to be whispered about. This makes people with the secret feel more special and important than the people around them.
All these secrets really aren't being kept as much as they are being used to manipulate people. This bothers me to no end because it only leads to misinformation and negative feelings. Why not just be honest and open with all your fellow humans?
I can concede the need for some secrets in life, but I think they should rarely, if ever, need to be exploited to make others feel bad. Maybe I am blind to the inner politics of certain groups. However, if being in the loop means being secretive and hurtful, leave me in the dark.
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