What Will Happen Will Happen

I read something on the internet once that said, "Trying to clean the house when the kids are home is like trying to brush your teeth while eating an Oreo." I don't have any kids, but I feel like this is a good metaphor for my life in general. It seems like whenever I am trying to get something done, there are always larger forces at play that basically void whatever I am trying to do.

It's hard for me to explain what I am talking about, but I'll try. It's like when you are trying to eat healthy, only to discover that the vegetables you are eating have been sprayed with toxic pesticides. It's like always washing your hands to stay clean, only to discover you are using contaminated water. It's like trying to recycle to save the planet only to find out that the planet can't be saved by recycling. It's like trying to be a good person only to realize being a good person doesn't guarantee you a better life.

You see what I mean? I want to do the right thing and live a good life, but many times it is so discouraging knowing that everything you do could be for nothing, or everything you do could be the wrong thing. Most of the time you never know if you are doing the best thing. You just have to take a stab at it and hope your life turns out the way you want.

I sometimes get down about all the unknown forces that may destroy my life even as I try desperately to avoid them. But I think at that point, I just need to stop worrying about things I can't control. We all do the best that we can, and if our best is not good enough there is nothing else we can do but relax and let what will happen, happen.

The Right Amount of Love to the Right Places

When I go to websites such as Facebook, I often notice that certain people get a lot of likes and responses on things they post. These people obviously have a lot of friends and are well-liked. Then there are others who usually get few likes, even when you can tell they are posting something that is very important to them. Do these people deserve less love than the people who get hundreds of likes? Probably not. But I think in our efforts to do what is popular, we often forget about others who probably need more love and attention than the people who already get it.

Is it good to generate good feelings and positivity by liking what people post? Of course. Could we more effectively use our power of positivity on people who are more deserving or needing? I think so. We all need to feel loved and valued, and for popular people, that feeling usually comes more easily because they get a lot of love from a lot of people. But for not-so-popular people, feeling loved can be a struggle because they don't hear that they are loved very often.

I'm not saying that the popular people need less love. But why can't we give the same amount of love to the less popular people? If you had two people and one was starving and the other was well-fed, who would you give food to? Certainly to the starving person. Yet I think there are many people who are starving for love while others continue to heap it upon those who are satisfied.

Why can't we give more love to those who are starving for it? I don't just mean on social media, either. I'm sure you come across someone almost everyday who needs more love. Why not give a smile or a kind word when it can mean the difference between surviving and thriving? I think sometimes, in our efforts to fit in, we forget to spread love to those who need it the most. This post is a reminder to myself and everyone that we can create a lot more good in the world if we give more love to those who don't get it readily.